Complacency is an enemy of progress.An enemy that robs you off of your desired reward and supplements your gift or dream with a side plate of comfort and momentary success. How many stories have you heard of smart young people who enter the job market with the zeal to one day become partners or CEOs, only to burn out due to complacency. How many talented sportsmen dunk in our neighbourhoods just because they did not dare themselves to scale their talent beyond their estates?So they chose the little glory of being the best in the hood. How many of us have given up on our childhood dreams just because it seemed easier to be content and stay put? Those who dreamt of doing their masters degrees or phDs but along the way fell into the lie that you have to hold on to your job since you can’t eat that degree?
Let it be known that, if there is any zone worse than the “bro” or “friend” zone, it is the comfort zone.That momentary success level where you may feel your purpose is achieved or that you have made it. Success is great, but dangerous when you forget that it’s not a destination but an unending process that starts in the mind. Wealth does not start by having money, it starts by being rich in thoughts. If not well handled, success may lead you to complacency. Countless cases of “A” students from high schools that end up being “E” students in the school of life exist among us while the opposite is true.
I would love to be the one bashing you on why you should rise beyond your comfort zone but I have also found myself in this limbo severally. Those times when hope seems distant and no one seems to be there to guide you. At first, you perceive life as a flow and assume that you will just flow with the current. A few months later, you find yourself withdrawing from social circles and find comfort in being alone. During meet ups with your friends, their stories seem like a “pride fest” and slowly you internally detest them simply because they seem to have a better handle over their lives while you still try to watch inspirations videos to keep a hold of yours. The hardest fights that you come across in life are definitely not against others, but against yourself. Your inner self that knows you so well until it hurts.
I am not sure where you are in life right now. If you have kept your zeal and fire for your dreams, bless you!!!!! However, if you are on this other side, “tuko pamoja”. Not for long though, because we are not meant to be here. So these are my thoughts around this:
1) It starts in the spirit
Our loss of hope stems mostly from our complacency in the spirit. We avoid reading the word when success/problems gets to our mind. We attend church on need basis or as a ritual. We only pray when there’s traffic and we are almost late for work or when we think God is a miracle worker to get that boy or girl that we have feelings for. Hosea 4:6 says that “my people perish for lack of knowledge”. You need to know that, complacency will kill you. You might physically be alive but dead in the spirit. Some people live up to 80 years but in real sense died at 25 years of age. We are in times when pressure to succeed, amass wealth, obtain power, dominate and have fun determine our choices. Yet we forget that in reality that all of this is in vain. Search for any old man/woman above 80 years of age and they will tell you that all that “gold” does not add value when you are helpless but only God determines our path. An Iphone user relies on the manual to understand the power of the phone, so don’t be a phone without it’s manual.
2) It affects all areas if left untamed
Your life does not exist in silos or blocks. We tend to think that our school person, work person, friend person, church person or night person exist as independent entities with limited liability. However, when one entity is affected there exists a ripple effect in the others, since you are one. We invest so much in the gym trying to get fit or burning the extra hours doing that report for the promotion at the cost of other sectors.
The 21st century is a case study of “Health vs Money” where young people work so hard at the expense of their health to get money. Then age using the same money to get back their health. Proverbs 25:16 states that,” If you have found honey, eat only enough for you, lest you have your fill of it and vomit it.” Moderation is key in all aspects of your lives.
3) You need REAL people around you
Sometimes you just need that one friend who keeps it real with you. One who desires the best for you even if the truth may be hurtful at that moment. Many of the friends we have only seem to fuel our egos and seal our fates in comfort. Very few rise up to the occasion to call out others . So what kind of friend are you?? Proverbs 18:24 grants us the secret to friendship: One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.My translation of Luke 6:31, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” would be, “If you want friends that keep it real, then also keep it real.
4) You are not doomed, it can only get better
Every cloud has a silver lining. The best part about hitting rock bottom is that you cannot go lower than that. The only way left is up. If you find yourself in such a situation like me, well it can only get better for us. We just have to be intentional about seeking the best out of our lives.It’s easy to pray for struggles to go away, but God knows why we have to go through such sorrows, disappointments, defeat so that we may know what true victory is and most importantly that HE is in charge .
Joshua 1:9 “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”…… You are never alone in your walk even if events try to suggest so.